Perfect Ejaculatory Control: Myth vs. Reality
Life is a contest where the top performers, whether in the areas of athletics, business, or intelligence, are rewarded for their success. Within this competitive environment, sexual prowess is no exception. Men want to be just as fantastic in bed as they are in the other successful areas of their lives. Or maybe they just want to be fantastic in bed, period. Whatever the case may be, mastering your sexual prowess and becoming a dynamo in the bedroom is not a simple process and can't be learned overnight.
While simple devices such as DVD players frequently come with complicated lists of instructions (often in multiple languages), men are awarded no such luxuries with their own personal “equipment”. The male organ is different from the rest of their various parts in two ways: unlike the heart or the lungs, it does not automatically function in perfect harmony with the rest of the body, and unlike the bladder, it cannot be controlled directly through conscious effort and any allow men to last longer in bed.
While simple devices such as DVD players frequently come with complicated lists of instructions (often in multiple languages), men are awarded no such luxuries with their own personal “equipment”. The male organ is different from the rest of their various parts in two ways: unlike the heart or the lungs, it does not automatically function in perfect harmony with the rest of the body, and unlike the bladder, it cannot be controlled directly through conscious effort and any allow men to last longer in bed.
- Myth
While jokes about premature ejaculation are common, they are also hurtful. However, most men who suffer from the condition are too ashamed of it to speak up and express their offense. Not only are rapid ejaculators belittled in books, movies, television, and pornography while the “heroes” somehow maintain perfect ejaculatory control, these bedroom gods often seem to be blessed with an intimidating sizable manhood as well. And when size and staying power are emphasized in tandem, the premature ejaculator's stress begins to multiply between the sheets.
It's easy to pretend that premature ejaculation is only a problem for the lowliest of men when you're exposed to an environment which hides it so well. But remember: sex scenes in romance novels and soap operas are works of fiction. When porn actors occasionally “slip up” (and they do), it ends up on the cutting room floor. The reality is that every man, young or old, gay or straight, regardless of their number of sexual partners, has struggled with timing their ejaculation just right. The idea of perfect control is a myth. But with a little practice and an understanding partner, improving your control is a very real possibility.
It's easy to pretend that premature ejaculation is only a problem for the lowliest of men when you're exposed to an environment which hides it so well. But remember: sex scenes in romance novels and soap operas are works of fiction. When porn actors occasionally “slip up” (and they do), it ends up on the cutting room floor. The reality is that every man, young or old, gay or straight, regardless of their number of sexual partners, has struggled with timing their ejaculation just right. The idea of perfect control is a myth. But with a little practice and an understanding partner, improving your control is a very real possibility.
- Reality
The penis tends to operate in a mysterious gray area between those two standards. Sure, there are various strategies to control unwanted erections or impending ejaculations (mentally picturing your naked grandmother or other sexually repulsive images, for example), but these offer men a limited amount of indirect control at best. And while life would be much easier if the penis did exactly what needed to be done when required, like the heart or the kidney, this is unfortunately not the case.
Because the penis behaves so differently than other parts of the body, developing the fine art of ejaculatory control can be a frustrating process for some. Sex may be perfectly natural, but by no means is it naturally perfect. And neither is the process of ejaculatory control.
Because the penis behaves so differently than other parts of the body, developing the fine art of ejaculatory control can be a frustrating process for some. Sex may be perfectly natural, but by no means is it naturally perfect. And neither is the process of ejaculatory control.